Well hello there, allow me to introduce myself. I am a married, 30 – something, guy who has spent the past several years trying to figure my wife out. I love her to death, she is amazing, intelligent, funny, passionate, and hot! All that being said, being married is a job and often times I find myself doing research, talking with other married friends, and even internet surfing to discover the secrets to a happy marriage. And the truth of the matter is that I am nowhere close to the secret code that creates a marriage without: challenge, conflict, and strife…
I guess I should start at the beginning, and I think you will find (if you are indeed my target market i.e. married men, no peeking ladies) your story is very similar to mine. I started off as a 20 something single guy. I was funny, intelligent, charismatic, and witty. So the 20 something me met a girl, and after a long distance courtship, that became a close distance courtship we were married. I quickly discovered that who I thought I was, was not really who I actually was. A good partner acts like a close up mirror that shows the whole truth, warts and all. And this mirror had some interesting things to say:
I was funny : Actually I was dorky.
I was intelligent : She was smarter.
I was charismatic : Kind of a smart ass.
I was witty : Actually I still am.
Now don’t get me wrong, my wife does not insult me, make me feel like crap, or any other abusive behavior but the truth of the matter is I am not as awesome as I think I am. Also my wife is not as smart as she thinks she is either. Which leads to disagreements. Some call them tiffs or fights or confrontations. But no matter the name we all have them and as husbands we can often feel like we are walking through a minefield. Our wives seem so much better at arguing, and we feel like we are so much better at apologizing (because practice makes perfect).
Look at all the sitcoms devoted to it, the stand up comedians who makes jokes about it, the movies centered around it. We live in a society that embraces the idea that men are from Mars and women are from Venus. Well I aim to change some of that. I want to part the veil at least a little bit for all my fellow husbands out there. I want to share my experiences in hopes that maybe, just maybe you will be better for it. Oh and I want you all to share your experiences too.
This is not a place to come and bitch about our wives, this is a place to come to share some funny stories and maybe pick up a few pointers.-TheHusBlog